It is said that 80 percent of brides will arrive late to their own weddings, even those that always arrived early to everything all their lives. You too could be late to your wedding, but we’ll reveal to you the top wedding-day time-sucking mistakes to avoid, and walk you through how be early to your wedding ceremony and reception. Etiquette demands, and it’s even commonsense, to be on time to events, especially if it’s your wedding day. Our guest expert today is a wedding photographer who has seen countless numbers of brides arrive late to their own weddings. Being behind-the scenes at most weddings, he saw firsthand everything brides do on the morning of their weddings, and has seen enough of what makes about-to-wed ladies late. In this article, he will reveal helpful advice and tips, what to do, and what not to do” – to help you avoid being late for your wedding ceremony or reception – his tips are not theory o; they are drawn from real life weddings while on duty as a wedding photographer. Scroll down to get the wedding-day time-keeping tips for brides.
So, over to our Guest Expert for today, Daniel of Dauch Photography Studios (his contact info is at the end of this article).
Dauch Photography Reveals Top 5 Things that Make Brides to Be Late to their Own Weddings
It’s very easy for single ladies to criticize a bride for coming late to her wedding ceremony location but sadly most of those critics will end up making the same mistakes on their own wedding day. As an experienced wedding and lifestyle photographer, I have the privilege to share with you some behind-the-scenes common mistakes that make can any bride arrive late to her wedding ceremony (church) venue. Please note the tips I will provide here are purely based on my personal observations while working very closely with my wedding clients. Enjoy and take action!
#1. Poor Planning and Failure to Delegate
It is a common saying that one who fails to plan, plans to fail. Most brides want to do their wedding planning, pricing, bargaining and shopping alone – without help. Sadly, they fail to delegate minor duties to other people. The I-can-do-it-all-by-myself attitude has never helped any bride in the past, neither will it help you.
EXPERT ADVICE: So start planning with trusted friends and loved ones to delegate duties to them. This will give you more time to concentrate on other important activities. If your budget can accommodate it, you can also seek the services of a professional wedding planner. These will take most of the burden that come with planning off your shoulders. Brides must learn to trust other people to do some things for them rather than thinking that nobody else can do it better than themselves. Brides should be humble to admit the fact that they can’t do everything perfectly.
RELATED: Wedding Delegation 101: How to Enlist Needed Helpers to Execute and Coordinate Your Wedding – pay close attention to tips #2, 5 and 6
#2. Hiring an Amateur Bridal Makeup Artist
Sometimes I wonder why most brides will want to hire an amateur make-up artist to mess with their face on the most important day of their life. Whatever the justification may be, it comes with its own detriment. While an amateur bridal make-up artist will waste hours trying to find out what to use on your face, a professional bridal make-up artist has already done a trial make-up for you on the day of your pre wedding photo session. This will make the bridal makeup less stressful on the wedding day, making you look your best on your D-Day.
EXPERT ADVICE: So while choosing a make-up artist, always inquire how long the bridal make up procedure will take him/her. This will give you a clue of what to expect on your wedding day.
#3. Poor Time Management
During the early morning hours of the wedding day, it is very common for some of the bride’s friends and loved ones to arrive, and they will all want to see the bride to inform her of their presence and also cheer her up. Most bride’s get carried away by these moments and forget the essence of focusing on the more important thing: Getting Dressed Up. Wedding brides should always remember that there will be enough time on the wedding day for exchange of pleasantries, sharing jokes and taking of pictures. Having this in mind will keep you focused on the task ahead and make you stick to your time schedule.
TREND CASE STUDY: A recent trend in Nigeria is where some brides lodge in 5-Star hotels for the dressing-up. While this gives the bride a very quiet environment to sleep well at night before the wedding day, the main reason that most brides make such hotel choice is so that they can take pictures in the beautiful hotel environment immediately after wearing their wedding gown (while their make-up is still fresh). Unfortunately, most brides end up not taking those planned pictures – all because of poor time management. The implication is that they spend so much money for the hotel space and get less value. Sometimes a bride would even end up quarreling with her groom on their wedding morning, because of her lateness. Isn’t that funny?
#4. Poor Transportation Arrangement
This is one common problem I have noticed in most Nigerian weddings. I have even seen a wedding where the bride was supposed to use her personal car to go to the church but couldn’t find the car keys when it was time to go to the church. I guess this would not have happened if there was a driver that was paid to do the job. In some other cases, the same driver that was paid to drive the bride to the wedding venue will be the same driver to come back to the hotel to pick up the bridal train (aka wedding party), pick the photographers and camera-persons, and maybe some other vendors and sometimes including picking up her relatives.
EXPERT ADVICE: If you need three cars to transport people to the church, make arrangements for four or five cars. Always make room for disappointments. Get a hotel that is very close to your wedding venue, with good access roads and one that is also close to your reception venue.
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#5. Phone Calls and Chats
I know that you might start wondering why I have this on the list. But phone calls and chatting is a major time consumer in the morning of any wedding. Brides should try to hand over their phones, ipads, etc to someone else who does not have any major role to play on the wedding day or they can decide to switch off their phones completely. Your friends and well-wishers will always find their way to your wedding venue, whether your phone is switched on or not. Remember that any serious person who sincerely wants to attend your event will get the venue address in advance, days before your wedding day. Be bold enough to tell your friends that they shouldn’t call your phone numbers on your wedding morning since you will be busy getting ready for an unforgettable experience.
Timekeeping 101 for Brides: Ladies, Let’s Help You Show Up On Time!
If you think it will be hard for you to be on time, you may want to hire a wedding planner to take the wahala from you. We are so concerned about our brides who read this blog and follow us (NaijaGlamWedding) on social media, and want to help you not-be-late to your wedding. So, in this article, I begged one of the wedding photographers in my circle (of wedding professionals and vendors) to come and reveal expert tips on what causes brides to usually run late on their big day, and also advice my NaijaGlamWedding brides on how to avoid this common mistake that almost every bride will make (and many have made in the past).
Think about it, who better knows what brides struggle with than their photographer, makeup artist and wedding planner? Out of all the wedding professionals a couple would hire, those are the ones that work closely behind-the-scenes with them on their wedding day, and even some days/ weeks before their big day.
As gross as it may sound, 89 percent of the time, about-to-wed brides are late and rushing to their own weddings – ceremony or reception. Happens all the time. And, let me tell you, next Saturday, 8 out of every 10 brides will show up nearly late (some late) to their weddings. No bride ever planned to show up late, but it ALWAYS happens – but the good news is that you can avoid it using our tips. Lateness among brides is not nice at all, and we don’t want you to be like that. This sort of behavior annoys wedding photographers because when they show up very early to take your before-the-wedding photos, you are not ready because you’re still styling your hair or doing your face, or for a thousand other reasons. And to make matters worse, the photographer may never get a chance to shoot the before-pictures, because you would end up rushing out when it’s a few minutes to your church wedding. Haba, brides! Photographers and Makeup Artists are complaining bitterly. Scroll up again to re-read our tips on how to be an early bride.
Brides, Now You Know Better…
According to wedding professionals who work with brides on the mornings of their weddings, every week over 80% of brides turn up late to their wedding ceremony. Even next week, many brides will arrive late to their own weddings. Most brides that it happened to cry the “if only I knew” line. None of them ever planned it, but it happened. If you’re like me, you’ll wonder whether it’s a curse that brides must be late to their own weddings, no matter how hard they tried. The reason is buried in the saying that ‘what you don’t know is likely to kill you’ or as the Bible says ‘my people perish for lack of knowledge’. Carried away by the excitement and anxiety of the shiny things of weddings, time-keeping is a bride’s last worry. Most brides go to their weddings never knowing the mistakes others before them had made, and so they blindly make the same mistakes all over again – and late coming is top on the list.
Now that you know the top 5 hings that make brides to be late to their own weddings, you do not have any excuse to be late.
Your Turn: Add Tip #6 or Share Any Bride-Wedding-Lateness Saga You Experienced
That’s it! Now you know what to do to avoid being another late bride. I hope the above tips will help you be on time for your own big day. This blog is all about keeping you super-organized before and through your wedding. Please share this article with any one you know who is getting married soon – they will thank you, because newlyweds who arrived late to their weddings always tell us ‘if I had known…”.
Now that you’ve read this post, you now know what most about-to-wed brides do not know, and so I expect you to show up early. Work towards this saying that “it’s better to be one hour early than 5 minutes late”. Thanks for reading. Now comment below to add your own tip or share about a wedding you attended where the bride showed up late and why.
ABOUT THE AUTHOUR: Today’s behind-the-scenes wedding advice was brought to us by Daniel Chima Kumorhymes of Dauch Photography Studios in Port Harcourt (Nigeria). To hire them as your wedding photographer or for your engagement shoot, contact him on Phone/ Whatsapp: 07068680338 or 07012314683. Follow Dauch Photography on Facebook where they regularly dishes out wedding photography tips | BBM: 5c3432fd | Instagram: @dauchphotography
Photography Credits: @Akintayotimi | SC George | Adebayo Deru | Dotun Ayodeji | Obi Nwokedi | Alakija Studios – those awesome Nigerian wedding photographers are on Instagram; please follow them to see more of their works or to hire them.