So, you’re confused whether you really need a wedding planner? Not sure if you can do it by yourself or whether it will be a waste of money to hire a wedding planner in Naija? Read on for 6 surefire signs to help you make the best wedding decision. While the services of a wedding planner cannot be under-estimated, the truth is that not everyone needs a wedding planner – and it has nothing to do with being able to afford it. Some brides-to-be start off knowing whether or not they want to use a wedding planner for their Nigerian wedding, some people are confused about it. In this post, I give you the 6-point test for knowing without a doubt whether you need a wedding planner or not. Read on.
Some brides and grooms have always known that they want or do not want a wedding planner, many brides are confused and often ask “how do I know if I need a wedding planner?” To help you decide whether to use a professional wedding planner or plan it yourself, check out our 6-point test for you know if you absolutely must use a professional wedding planner
#1: You Feel Overwhelmed
If you feel overwhelmed by the planning details but absolutely want to have a wedding great party. It’s even okay to start planning the wedding yourself and later start feeling stressed up and hating the planning side – that’s the time to hand over everything to a wedding planner, no matter how far of near the wedding date, and no matter how much or how few the work you have already put in.
Don’t worry, a professional wedding planner can be hired at any point in the wedding planning process, even to coordinate the day of wedding event. Wedding planning should be enjoyed by a bride and groom, step aside and let someone do it, once you find yourself not enjoying the process anymore.
#2: You are Extremely Busy
if you’re too busy (may be work doesn’t give you time away) to put time to your wedding planning, chances are that a wedding planner will take a heavy lift off you. Maybe you have a very stressful and time-consuming job or business – there’s no way you can juggle that with planning a great wedding, which is equally stressful.
You and your close friends and family (who can help you) may not have the time to plan your wedding the way you’d like. Time is the most important factor a wedding planner can save you, as these days most couples as well as their parents, friends and siblings work.
#3: You’re Planning From Afar
If you’re living far from where the wedding will take place, it only makes sense to find reliable people who know the good vendors around the area. You can’t entrust the most important day of your life to friends and relatives you’ll only follow up with on the phone – you can’t guarantee they are doing anything while you’re away, because you’re not paying them for their service. You can’t afford to fly in wedding service providers from afar and family and friends may make you feel they’re doing the leg runs for you when they’re not.
So, instead of letting your Aunt tell her friend’s friend, ask around for a reputable wedding planner who has worked with those vendors in the past, and knows the good and bad ones.
#4: You Are Not Familiar With Vendors in Your Wedding City
Consider hiring a wedding planner if you are not familiar with the city you will get married in (wedding location), and don’t know who to ask for where to find good wedding vendors – even if you live in the area or traveled there to put things in place. Popular scenarios like this include planning a destination wedding in Dubai, Paris or anywhere in the World – and you live in Nigeria.
A professional wedding planner in that area already knows good wedding vendors that provided awesome services and products at previous wedding events they coordinated. They also know the not so good wedding service providers to avoid. And they know how to ask for special discounts for their clients, saving you money. So, if you don’t have the time to plan your wedding yourself, don’t know where to find vendors in the area and/ or do not have close friends and family to coordinate the vendors on your wedding day, my advice is to find a wedding planner. You can find one that will work within your budget.
- By the way, this blog plans to have one of Nigeria’s biggest directory of good wedding vendors in Nigeria and abroad, to make it easy for brides-to-be (and grooms too) to find the professionals they need – so stay tuned, baby!
#5: Too Many Cooks Syndrome
If you have a lot of family drama and everyone wants to be involved. Maybe your mother-in-law, your mother and/ or everyone in the groom’s family and yours is pushing their ideas down your throat, it’s better to get a professional wedding planner. Wedding planners are already familiar with such situations and know how to diplomatically get all parties agree to the wedding the way the couple wants it. It’s okay to listen to people’s input about how to run your wedding, thank them gracefully, decide with your fiance on what to do and simply let everyone know that – tell them nicely but firmly. Remember the saying: too many cooks (almost always) spoil the broth.
#6. You Have a Habit of Over-spending
Now this is a bonus point – I told you I’ll give you five points, now this is the sixth. If you are a natural spendthrift and have a problem staying on budget, consider getting a professional wedding planner who will manage the wedding budget you have to ensure you don’t overspend, in addition to taking care of every other wedding planning logistics.
Extra Cautions For When Using a Wedding Planner or Going Solo
While we recommend that every bride hires a professional wedding planner, so that she can have peace of mind, stay stress-free during wedding planning and be “a guest in her own wedding”, it is also true that you can definitely have a great wedding without a wedding planner – that’s if you’re an organization freak, have the time, know how to delegate (the wedding planning) tasks to others and have family and/or friends who are willing to help and know how to ask others for help.
Hire the Wedding Planner that You Vibe With: Finally, if you do choose to go with a wedding planner, be sure it’s someone that you get along with, listens to you and is creating you (and your fiance’s) dream wedding and not her own dream – use our pre-wedding quiz to help you articulate your personal wedding dream before you ever start discussions with a wedding planner. Don’t hire a wedding planner who gives the impression that s/he is in charge of “the show” – it’s your wedding and you should be in charge and asked before any decision is taken. Don’t believe what a planner tells you about how awesome they are, do your findings about them before deciding.
Protect Yourself: And, don’t forget to protect yourself by getting everything in writing. Ask for a written and signed contract document (not just a payment receipt) that has a list of all included services, what you are charged and how many times you need to pay the service fees – just so there will be no confusion or disagreement after you hire the wedding planner. Furthermore, it’s better to hire a planner who works with a company or a large team alone versus one who works alone.
- And, if you cannot afford to pay a wedding planner, use our steps on how to coordinate your wedding yourself – of course using friends and family to help out.
Now hear it from one of Nigeria’s top wedding planner, Funke Bucknor-Obruthe (video below).
Wedding Planner Takeaway
Whether you are getting married in Nigeria, abroad, at a hired venue or even at your backyard, a good wedding planner can help you keep laid-back, enjoy your pre-wedding period and deliver your wedding day just the way you dreamed it – with peace of mind. However, for brides with the big picture vision, have the time and people available to help her, creating a kick-ass wedding day is still possible without a wedding planner.
You should not feel obligated to hire a wedding planner just because someone you know used one. Every couple’s situation and natural talents is different and some people really enjoy the planning process and have plenty of time to do it themselves. If you’re an organization freak, and the one who is always helping your church, friends, club and association organize their events, and really enjoy doing events for fun, chances are that you naturally would want to plan your own wedding yourself. However, some people just hate the idea of organizing things or even themselves – for such people, they would never want to consider planning their own wedding.
There’s no right or wrong way about it how you choose to coordinate your wedding – on your own or hiring a pro. It all depends on your natural talents for organization, your budget and whether you have people around to help you plan the wedding. And if you decide to plan it yourself, be sure to hand it to a professional wedding planner when you start getting tired/ bored with it or confused.
Useful Resources for DIY Brides and Grooms Who Want to Learn to Plan their Weddings Themselves Just Like Experts
- NaijaGlam’s rolodex of FREE, downloadable and printable wedding planning tools – the same tools that wedding planners (shh! don’t tell them oo, so that Nigerian wedding planners won’t get angry with us)
- Our Wedding Planning articles arranged orderly for couples just starting to plan their big day – so you know what to read first, and next and next.
- Wedding Planner in a Box: In one single click, get all all our most important DIY wedding planning tools to help you easily organize your wedding if you won’t use a wedding planner.
Make sure that no matter whom you ask to help coordinate your wedding plans, whether a planner or a friend, you are in charge of the decision-making process. In the end you are the one (or your parents) who is paying for all of the services that day and it is your wedding day! Make sure to read our follow-up articles that will teach you how to choose a wedding planner.
Now, it’s your turn to talk back to me in the comments box below – now that you’ve read our five point test to determine whether you need a wedding planner, tell me – will you be using a wedding planner or not? If so, why and if not, why?