14. Skip Anything or Idea You’re Having Difficulty With
If anything proves too difficult or challenge, skip it. Maybe it’s not that important. Instead of waiting too long, forcing yourself to have that one thing, and time is going, why not skip to the next best alternative, and be happy. My Nigerian peeps would say ‘I cannot come and go and die’ (meaning: there’s no need to sweat over small stuff). The wedding is only a day, and there’s a lifetime of marriage ahead. Therefore, take things easy as you plan and execute things off your wedding checklist.
15. Make Out Enough Free Time to Plan Your Wedding or Hire a Professional Planner to Handle the Stress
Wedding planning is part planning and a whole lot of DOING. To ensure you complete the list of things-to-do in your before your wedding in 3 months, you have to create enough free time for ‘doing’ the activities in the plan or checklist. That could mean taking a leave from work, forgoing some of your favourite pastime activities or social engagements, spending less time with friends.
You may even have to commit some of your weekends to do wedding-related tasks. If you cannot, absolutely make out time to plan the wedding yourself, then hire a wedding planner to handle the planning and legwork for you. Some planners are more affordable than you think.
16. Involve Other People and Delegate
There are so many things to do in a few short months, and you cannot possibly do them alone by yourself. Attempting to do everything yourself will stress you out, so ask friends and family to help you do some tasks. You’ll be surprised to know that they’ve been waiting to be asked, and are happy to help. Getting helpers for your wedding planning will guarantee that you are not killing yourself or stressing out too much, and you can have all your plans executed early.
17. Plan for the Wedding Day Coordination in Advance and Delegate It to Someone Else
After putting all plans in place for the day of the wedding, there is still a need to make sure that someone is overseeing the day’s event, calling vendors to order, and quickly getting the necessary people to fix anything that goes wrong before guests notice. This is the person that will be calling up the vendors that are running late. This role is called ‘wedding day coordination’ and is mandatory is you want a successful event.
Having a day-of-wedding coordinator is even more important whereby you planned your wedding yourself. Professional event planners also offer this one-day service (aka partial wedding planning) for less fee. Some wedding day coordinators even get involved from the final weeks of your wedding planning to help you round things off and also oversee the wedding day even to ensure things run smoothly.
However, if for any reason you prefer to have a friend or family member do this for you, you can read our steps on how to coordinate your own wedding ==> Wedding Day Coordination Checklist. If you planned your wedding yourself, it’s also very important that you delegate a few final tasks to close friends and family members – you can use my wedding tasks delegation tips to guarantee a successful event.
18. Find Time to Relax in Between Planning
Planing a wedding on such short notice is stressful, but try not to get consumed in the process. Schedule a day of every week where you go out on a date with your significant other, and agree to keep wedding planning discussions off for that day. This kind of date nights will help keep you connected with your love, in the midst of crazy wedding planning schedules.
Also, ensure that you sleep well at night. Not sleeping well has a way of adding to your nervousness and stress. Your wedding and your fiance are not running away and so you don’t deserve to lose sleep.
Get Help to Make Wedding Planning a Stress-Free Experience
Most newly engaged women jump straight from engaged to wedding planning out of excitement, and quickly lose the steam to start feeling stress and overwhelm from wedding planning tasks. On this blog, we usually advise newly engaged couples, especially brides, to enjoy their period of engagement, take in as much as possible and not rush into planning a wedding. The good news is that help is available for you – use it! Use the above tips and the available wedding planning tools we created for you to help you have a stress-free wedding planning experience.
That’s all about how to deal with nervousness and anxiety when planning a wedding. If you find those tips helpful, be sure to comment to let us know. We have written so many wedding planning guides and advice for anyone planning or budgeting for a Nigerian wedding by themselves. Take a peek around to find them. Consider following us on your favourite social media and also subscribing to join our community, so that you’ll be the first to know any time we have a new post.
Before you go, I’d like to hear from you – do you think wedding planning stress and anxiety are real? Do you have any additional tips on how to stay calm and collected during wedding planning, or just want to say something about the post? Let me know in the comment section below, and let’s get the discussion kicking.