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  1. Helen Idemudia says

    good evening,

    My name is Helen Idemudia and am from officially from edos state. i would to know how the edo marriage is done. Especially when that my dad is late but my mum still alive. ho is it done. ?


    • Hi Helen, the best person to ask is your Mother, since she is still alive.
      I wish I could answer you, but since we are not from every part of Nigeria, I’ll refer you to your mom or Uncles and Aunties.
      Hope that helps.

  2. Thanks for this your write up,my woman is from Edo state and am going for the introduction this weekend and this has giving me an idea of what I will expect from their list.

  3. Nice job Stella. I am from ESAN land in Edo State and this article has just enlightened me and guiding on my preparations to marry my love from the same place. Thanks and keep it up

    • Hi Joshua, I’m very happy to hear that this article was of help to your your Esan Traditional Marriage preparations. Thanks for your feedback, and congrats in advance. Know that we are happy to feature the wedding on this blog, after the D-day – just tell us.

  4. I thought our bride price was just #28. I might be mistaken. Anything added on top of that is just them asking you to top that up but the price is actually none of those thousands I’m seeing/reading. I might be wrong (not) though.

    Good piece though.

    • Hello Uyi, and welcome here. Thanks for reading.
      In customary marriage rites, across most parts of Nigeria (North, South, East and West), the groom is expected to come with a set of CUSTOMARY GIFTS (aka engagement list), when coming to pay his bride’s price.
      >It’s a tradition since the old days (everywhere in Nigeria), not a newly introduced thing – they have been doing it for a long time.
      >So, the list above is for the ESAN PEOPLE. On this blog, we have also written on the Igbo and Yoruba versions, as out little way to educate grooms preparing to go take a wife.

      Fear not, they are usually not that expensive (lol).

      • Hello Stella,

        Thanks for clearing this up. This would have been an important debate at our household during the Christmas break. My wife is Gambian and their’s is similar but the best part is the groom isn’t present when negotiations are being done 🙂 only needed to go after all the hustle and humiliation (friendly banter) received by my family to just show face once it’s all been done.

        • Hello Uyi, I’m happy to hear that the above tips were helpful to you.
          Lucky you – you didn’t have to be right “there” during the customary bride-price negotiations. Lol.
          I wish you a fun-filled white-wedding planning, and marriage.

  5. anase ogbewele says

    hello ma’am,
    I am planning my best friend’s wedding, she is from Edo state. I followed your suggestions for the wedding budget plans.

    I am having a small issue with finding someone who can help me in dressing the bride for her traditional wedding…

    I would really appreciate your help with this. also, any advice going forward is welcomed.

    thank you for your time.

    best regards

    • Hello Anase,
      Thanks for reading our posts and now leaving us a comment. It made my day to hear that you followed my Nigerian wedding budget planning guides. Thanks for the feedback.

      You did not say the type of person you are having trouble finding – someone you will pay or ____?? Anyway, I’ll just assume that you plan to do what most Nigerians do in this situation, which is to find a close friend or family member of the bride to fill this role of dressing up the bride. >>Let’s call these people the ” BRIDE’S GLAM SQUAD”. Just look within her bridesmaids. Dressing up the bride is part of their official role at the wedding (in case they do not know, inform them). >>ALSO: ask the bride to suggest the fashionistas in her family or circle of friends, who she would want to dress her up – get her to ask them to help on that day.

      Next is to hire a good makeup artist and hair stylist to glam up her face and hair in the morning of her wedding. You may hire people or have someone in-house do this – depending on whether her wedding budget can accommodate these costs.

      However, if the bride has a fat wedding budget, you can afford to hire a professional stylist to dress her up.

  6. Rose festus says

    Gud evening, am planning my traditional marriage soon n my both parents r dead though my dad sister is representing dat part. Pls I will b getting married to a northern man n dnt kw wat to wear, pls cn u giv m some advice. Am from owan-west edo state sobe

    • Dear Rose,
      First, let me congratulate you on your upcoming wedding.
      Now, let me answer your question on what to wear for your inter-tribal traditional marriage ceremony:
      -You are the bride and should wear your own people’s cultural attire, because traditional marriages are done at the bride’s place (the man will come to your place and you should be dressed as a maiden/ bride from the place you were born (Owan in Edo). >>That is how it is done.
      -OPTIONAL: However, since your husband-to-be is from a different tribe (the North), you may want to have a change of outfit on that day, and dress up in his people’s cultural wear (maybe, he’d also wear a matching attire).

      Hope that helps – that’s how most brides do it.

  7. moses osama says

    good piece
    please can i get the full comprehensive for the binis this is quite urgent
    i shall appreciate …….

  8. Hahahahahaha… This list is just one page out of the 6 pages that I collected from my inlaws, still in South-South, but in another state. I collected the list and it was later that I started wondering how I got home. I coughed out over N1.5m for Traditional list alone, in this recession. It was only love and God, else I wud have run away. My friends even advised me blank the girl, but love conquers all. If u no love girl well well, no follow am go Eket in Akwa Ibom o.

    • Hahaha. Ubong, that was very funny, but a familiar experience recounted by many grooms-to-be preparing for a traditional wedding. Thank God that you got it sorted.
      Come to think of it, I’ve never heard of a N1.5m traditional marriage list – was a car in that list? LoL

      Anyway, congratulations!

    • Okikiola Moses says

      i like edo girls if you love her and she also love you don’t need to worry she cover all the list well bros/dad Ubong i really rejoice with you



  10. Amikhoria M. Enanin says

    Thanks for the enlightenment of the price list of traditional marriage in Ishan,Edo state. I think price list is not the same all round Esan land,it differs from one village to another,even from one linage to another.In Ugboha where i came from,Bride price is very low,low because it is understood that you are not selling your daughter outright,no amount of money the woulnd-be-inlaw might come up with that will be equated to the value of the life the girl in question.Though,there are certain items that were mentioned above that are very important in traditional marriage in Esan land,and some of them not relevant in some quarters. In all,do not let the list scare you,the beauty of the bride price lies in the powerful negotiation of the spokes man on the day of wine carrying.

    • Thank you so much, Amikhoria, for that awesome addition. I love it. I totally agree with you that bride price and engagement list varies from place to place – across Nigerian states, no only in Edo state.
      *I would like to include those tips of yours into the article above – would you like that?

      Again, thanks for stopping by. I hope to see you around more 🙂

  11. onyekachukwu says

    Pls can I get the wedding list for the ottah side igbanke cos my wedding is coming up in 2 months time and there are some things I want to check thanks

    • Hello Onyekachukwu, I recommend you personally request that from your future inlaws. This one here is a general guide to help you do a budget, and have an idea of how much to keep aside, so that you’re (almost) ready financially when you go to request for the engagement list.

      So, budget with this list and set aside about that amount, and BOLDLY request for the list. You’ll find out that it’s not far from your budget.
      Let us know how it goes 🙂

  12. please help me out,my wedding is in few months and am an Edo tribe,my husband to be is a Yoruba. am confused about the attire to wear for the traditional wedding.pls I need your urgent response, thanks.

    • Hello Faith, first, let me congratulate you on your upcoming wedding. For Nigerian inter-tribal weddings like yours, there are 3 ways people do it:
      (1) You can either wear your Edo trad wear and your husband-to-be wears his Yoruba native wear.
      (2) The second way is for both of you to have 2 outfits for the day and change twice – you both wear the Edo outfit first AND later change to the Yoruba attire. It doesn’t matter which one you wear first – it can be the Yoruba outfit first OR Edo outfit first.
      (3) He wears your Edo mariage attire for men, and you wear the Yoruba marriage attire for women.
      Hope the above tips are helpful…

      • Clifford Erin says

        Hello Stella, The mention of Edo in the article is generally misleading because as some comments already pointed out, bride prices vary from one village/lineage to the other in Esan land, though this list can be accepted as the VERY LIST across the state, there is also need to title the list particularly an Eshan list as the comments bellow mostly reflects on just one tribe.
        My main reason to add my contribution is that the sequence you listed here is not accepted in the Bini tradition for instance for a groom to dress in his native attire while asking to marry his beloved bride from the bride’s family. The groom in the Esan tradition wears a beaded cap but doesn’t in the Bini tradition. I’ll like to also point out that the bride price in the Bini tradition (all over the Bini kingdom) is fixed at 25 Naira only, grooms are advised to keep that in mind because only that sum will be taken from whatever his family drops on the table, the rest will be+returned to him to enable him to take care of his wife.

        • Hello Erin, I am impressed with your details. Would you mind sending me a write-up of the Bini version of this article? Please, please… >Thank you very much for that detailed explanation of the Bini traditional marriage custom and bride price, especially where it differs distinctly from the Eshan traditional wedding custom.

          You convinced me with your details, and I appreciate.

          I have now made the title change, including Eshan. I hope you can help us narrate the marriage custom for Bini side of Edo state. Thanks, once again.

  13. Betty ikheloa says

    well am an edo girl and I know our culture please most of the things on the list are not correct we don’t charge that much on the brideprice

    • Thanks for your comment, Betty. Edo state is very big and has very many LGAs and villages, and I know that bride price/ engagement list IS NOT THE SAME FOR EVERY PART OF EDO STATE, while some parts share the same/ similar marriage list. Our contributing writer for this Edo marriage list provided the one for her part of Edo state and we will be happy to have you share with us what the list and bride price looks like for your own part of Edo state 🙂

  14. I am an Edo man, planning to marry an igbo lady. She is from Enugu State, precisely Enugu Ezike, have not really visited the family and am not based in Nigeria. I knew the girl before I travelled out and in my working place, they gave me a maximum of 40days to return back to work. Please enlighten me about that part of ibo marriage. And I want to do my marriage in not just luxurious way but simple and comfortable way.

  15. mowaninuola Owoborode says

    This is very perfect, and well explanatory. I love this page.

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