Are you a groom planning to marry an Eshan/ Edo woman, and ready to meet her parents for the bride price? If you’re like most men, you probably want to get an idea of what the bride price and Eshan Traditional Marriage List looks like. This post will give you a sneak peek, thanks to our guest expert, an Edo state wedding makeup artist.
In this post, we will be giving you an insight into what to expect to budget for when going to ask to marry an Edo woman. You will also find out what days are forbidden to hold marriages and steps on how to go about asking for her hand in marriage, from her family. Read on for the Edo state Traditional Engagement List!
I’m not from Edo state, so I invited my trusty Benin-based makeup artist, Henrietta Eromonele Oziengbe, to provide this groom’s guide for you. She is from Uvue quarters in Emuhi village Ekpoma, Esan West local government area of Edo state). You can find her biz contact info at the end of this post.
Now, read on to see what’s inside the Edo bride price list, and also get to know what forbidden dates to avoid when going to pay the bride price.
Isan (Esan) Bride Price & Traditional Marriage List (an expo for grooms-to-be)
- The Holy Bible – 1 (one)
- 1 Umbrella
- 1 suitcase filled with clothes (box of wrappers)
- 2 bottles of hot drinks (schnapps)
- 1 crate of malt drinks
- 1 plate of kolanuts
- 1 bag of salt
- 25 liters of palm oil for the bride’s mother
- 1 jar of palm wine
- 1 carton of wine for sundry use (the groom should hold this)
- 3 crates of malt for women of the lineage
- 6 carton of beer for men of the lineage (broken down into 2 cartons of small Guinness stout; 2 cartons of Star beer; 2 cartons of Gulder beer)
- 28 tubers of yam arrange in groups of seven
- 14 tubers of yam for the eldest man in the lineage
- N1,500 cash for the dowry
- N5,000 cash for the bride’s mother
- N3,000 cash for the bride’s father
- N9,000 cash for the men in the bride’s lineage
- N6,000 cash for the women bride’s lineage
NOTE: Note that Edo state is made up of many sub-tribes and villages, each of which has a slight difference (significant, in some) from the other. So, use the below bride price list as a guide to drawing up your marriage introduction budget, and be prepared by saving up before contacting your future in-laws.
Forbidden Days to Avoid When Fixing a Date for Eshan Pay Bride Price Payment or Marriage Introduction
When choosing a date for the Edo traditional marriage introduction event, there are dates to avoid. AVOID the market days, because it is forbidden to pay bride price or conduct traditional marriage ceremony on market days. That is the custom of the people of Emuhi village in Ekpoma part of Edo state, so you’ll have to ask your wife-to-be for their own village’s forbidden days.
By the way, it is expected that you first, and later your family, must establish a relationship with the bride’s family before agreeing on a date for the marriage introduction.
Now that You Know this, What Should You Do Next?
Please note that the aim of this post is to help a serious groom prepare in advance , so that he knows how much to save-up and budget for the bride-price and traditional marriage list. Now that you’ve seen the Edo/ Eshan Traditional Marriage and Bride Price List, you should go to the market to get prices for the items and total them up so that you know what amount to budget for the traditional marriage list.
a) The above traditional marriage list is a guide for you to prepare, so plan for some extra differences, just in case: My guest expert contributor, ‘Nele, advises that you should expect a slight difference in the bride price list and traditional marriage process IF your fiancé is from another part of Edo state. She says that the traditional marriage custom across Edo state is generally similar.
b) Ask Bride’s Parents Officially for the Traditional Marriage List (that is the custom): Grooms, the above list is just a guide to help you budget ahead and be prepared. When you’re ready, you are required to officially request the bride price list and engagement custom from your future in-laws (father-in-law and/ or mother-in-law) – ask your wife-to-be which person to ask, in a case where one or both parents are dead or separated.
c). Every woman is PRICELESS so the above Edo/ Ishan bride price list monetary value and any other culture’s bride price list is not the price of your wife-to-be. Bride Price and Dowry are customary gifts and symbolic – the custom did not start today. You cannot buy a woman for any monetary amount. So after paying her bride price, treat her well because you did not buy her. Traditionally, the bride price/ dowry list is the customary gift items that a groom takes to the bride’s family when asking for the bride’s hand in marriage.
Conclusion: Planning for Your Edo Traditional Marriage
This post is part 1 of our Edo Traditional Wedding Planning Guide for grooms, click here to read PART 2. This article series is part of our wedding planning guides for Nigerian grooms or foreign grooms who are preparing to marry a Nigerian woman.
You can use the above Edo Traditional Engagement list to make your budget, but also budget for other things like transportation, couples attire, food and drinks, etc. Ensure to start early to budget for your Edo Traditional Marriage and figure out how save money for it. Once you have enough funds, you can then begin to schedule meetings with your bride’s parents.
So, there you have it – the Eshan/ Edo traditional Engagement List. Hope you found the article helpful. If you’re from Edo state or have already collected the engagement/ bride-price list, tell us how similar or different it is from the list above. Comment down below to tell me – I want to hear from you. Also, don’t forget to help us share this post on your social media page.
The Above and Explanation for this Post were provided by Henrietta Oziengbe Eromonele (aka Nele):
Nele is an Edo / Benin city based makeup artist that specializes in bridal makeup, headgear (gele) tying, bridal hair, rental and making of beads costume for brides and grooms and sales of pro makeup tools. To book her wedding and event services, call her on 08062522976 OR email her at [email protected]