If you’re a newly engaged woman (or man) and planning your customary introduction and Nigerian traditional marriage ceremony, we want to make the process less stressful for you – scroll down to see our exclusive Nigerian traditional wedding planning checklist to guide and keep you organized. Our complete Nigerian traditional wedding planning checklist should be used as a to-do list, so print it and tick off the done-tasks, as soon as they’re completed. Oh, I also included a side-note section to help non-Nigerian grooms understand why Nigerians have multiple weddings, the significance of the traditional marriage ceremony and a few things to know when preparing to marry a Nigerian woman. Scroll down for the customary traditional engagement planning to-do list, or trad wedding planning checklist.
The best time to start planning your traditional wedding is right after he put a ring on your finger (a few weeks ot months after the marriage proposal). Starting to implement this traditional wedding checklist early enough will ensure that there are no last-minute wedding day disappointments and that the best vendors are available for your dates. Read on…
Nigerian Traditional Marriage Planning Checklist
1. Breathe In, Enjoy Your Proposal: So, he (finally) put the ring on it? Congratulations, you’re engaged. Go out and totally enjoy it. Girl, it’s not easy to get the ring! Show off your engagement ring.
2. Tell the Parents: Announce Engagement to Bride’s Parents: Have your husband-to-be bring his family to announce the engagement to bride’s parents, and formally ask for your hand in marriage (Naija parents take this seriously. Even if groom is non-Nigerian or even a white/ oyibo guy, he must formally ask for their consent before the whole World hears that you’re engaged).
3. Decide on Type(s) of Wedding to Have: Decide on the type of wedding ceremonies you want and the ones you should ignore (introduction & bride price only (BP)? traditional only (T)? White/ church/ religious wedding ceremony only (R)? Court /registry wedding only (C)? OR do you want to have multiple wedding types such as T+W? T+C+W? T+C? W+C?
- Same Day Weddings or Not? Decide: will you have the trad and white/ court wedding on the same day? If the same day, will the reception be in the same place? We have a detailed checklist on how to plan both a traditional and white wedding on the same day. However, if you prefer not to have all weddings on the same day, how many days/ weeks/ months apart from each other?
- All Weddings will Be Big or How? Decide which of the wedding types you want to have will be big and which one will be low key, or if all weddings will be big.