If you’re planning a Nigerian traditional wedding ceremony, you need a plan to stay organized and ensure you do everything as at when due. To take the stress off you, I am giving you our ready-made traditional wedding planning checklist, in this post.
Planning a traditional wedding is similar to planning a white wedding, but since both types of wedding are different, it requires additional planning details. You can follow our 13-step Traditional Wedding Checklist below to help you plan your dream wedding step by step. The more detailed version that includes explanation is also down below. Swipe/ scroll down to check them out.
Traditional Wedding Checklist (13-Step To Do List)
1. Groom to meet bride’s parents to make his marriage intentions (to their daughter) known and let them know he is ready to commence with the traditional marriage rites, and is ready for the Marriage Introduction Ceremony
2. Groom to formally Request for the Traditional Engagement List from the Bride’s Family
3. Set Date and Place for Marriage Introduction and also for Traditional Wedding
4. Set a Budget for the Traditional Wedding
5. Draw up a Guest List. Decide who you want to attend your Traditional Wedding, aside from your close family members
6. Purchase Couple’s Traditional Attire
7. Choose Aso-ebi Colour and Fabric
8. Purchase outfits for the parents (bride’s parents, and groom’s parents)
9. Book for rental items in advance (such as canopy tents, tables, and chairs)
10. Decide whether food and drinks will be done in-house or by hired caterers
11. Book vendors – caterer, venue decorator, MC, DJ/ Live Music Band, photographer, videographer, planner
12. Attend your Marriage Introduction ceremony
13. Attend your Traditional Wedding ceremony
HELPFUL TRADITIONAL WEDDING PREPS:
- Meeting the Father-In-Law (How this Groom Did It)
- Nigerian Marriage Introduction (What Grooms Need to Know)
Complete Nigerian Traditional Marriage Planning Checklist with Extra Details
1. Groom should meet Bride’s Parents to declare his intentions (to marry their daughter) and readiness for the next steps
Groom should ask bride’s parents for the procedure for the customary marriage introduction ceremony and traditional wedding rites, how much is the bride price and ‘the customary engagement list, which is the customary list of items you require to bring to the bride’s family for the traditional wedding.
Also confirm who and who should accompany you to the occasion (because Nigerian custom demands that a groom must not come alone, but be accompanied by close family members). You may want to use this opportunity to request for the customary engagement list or ask at a later time.
2. Groom should officially ask for the Traditional Engagement List
It is advisable for a groom to personally meet face to face with the bride’s parents to make his intention to prepare for trad marriage known and also personally request for this list.
Sometimes, face to face meeting may not be possible within the time leading up to the intended date for your customary wedding.
- For example, if the groom is Nigerian and lives very far away from the bride’s parents (such as overseas), he can ask close relatives back in Nigeria (his own parents or elderly relatives at the village) to help collect ‘the list’ on his behalf.
- OR if the groom lives in a different state or country from the bride, and far away, AND bride lives closer to her parents, the groom may ask the bride to get her parents or her close relatives back home to request for the engagement list from bride’s village elders;
- If the groom is not Nigerian, and so does not have anyone to send to Nigeria to collect the customary engagement list, he may request for “the list” during his face-to-face meeting (in STEP 4 ABOVE) with bride’s family when he makes his intention to start preparing for the wedding with their daughter. (It’s expected that you’d have been introduced to her parents earlier before, and had some familiarization over some time – so that when you come asking for “the engagement list” is not the first time they’re getting to know about you or meeting you).
BRIDE PRICE & ENGAGEMENT LIST INSIGHTS:
- What the Yoruba Engagement List looks like (grooms’ guide)
- Igbo Traditional Marriage / Engagement List
- Edo Traditional Marriage List