The job of a bridesmaid doesn’t come with an information sheet or manual containing a list of duties, what the bridesmaid pays for or should budget for. The lack of such a guide is the reason why many brides and bridesmaids’ relationships end before the wedding day. Usually, a new bridesmaid comes not knowing what to do, and some brides even ask for too much from their bridesmaids, making it difficult for both of them to agree and also making the bridesmaid expenses too expensive for the girls. This post aims to bridge the information and knowledge gap for both brides and intending bridesmaids so that each party knows what is expected in advance and what not to expect.
This post will help clarify a bride and her bridesmaids on each party’s boundaries and limits, and also inform on ‘who does what’ and ‘who pays for what’ – all that is required to clear any confusion and set the stage for a healthy bride-bridesmaid relationship.
So, if you have recently said ‘yes’ to a bride, and are looking for a bridesmaid roles and responsibilities guide book, this post will provide you with answers and guidelines to what every bridesmaid needs to know. I’ll also touch on the meaning of ‘a bridesmaid’, and answer the questions: ‘what are bridesmaid’s duties’, ‘how expensive is it, or how much does it cost to be a bridesmaid?’ and ‘what do bridesmaids pay for?’ Consider this article ‘the bridesmaid’s checklist’ or to-do list. Now, let’s get right into it.
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What is Really the Purpose of a Bridesmaid?
By definition, a bridesmaid is a young woman or girl who is a close friend or relative of the bride, and who the bride has asked to assist her through the wedding planning, offer moral support and also attend to her needs on the wedding day. The bridesmaid helps the bride to make the wedding more entertaining by mingling with guests and sometimes joins the bride to put up a dance show for guests.
The role of a bridesmaid goes beyond wearing a beautiful dress, carrying a cute mini-bouquet to pose by the bride in wedding pictures. The bride didn’t choose you just because you are a fine girl. The truth is that she chose you because she expects you to help her out with wedding-related tasks, before the wedding, and a few responsibilities on the wedding day. Read on for everything a bridesmaid is supposed to do and the list of expenses involved with being a bridesmaid.
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What Does a Bridesmaid Really Do? Roles and Responsibilities List
Being a bridesmaid is a JOB, a part-time role. Like any other job, it has its job description to give the bridesmaid an idea of the responsibilities involved in the role you said ‘yes’ to. That’s what this section will give you – a list of everything a bridesmaid does. I have divided up the bridesmaids’ duties timeline into (a) before the wedding and (b) on the wedding day. If you’re a bride reading this, make sure to share this post with your bridesmaid.
A: Before the Wedding – Bridesmaids Duties Checklist
#1. Be Available for Wedding Date and Important Pre-Wedding events
Immediately you accept to be a bridesmaid, your first duty is to mark out the dates for the bride’s wedding, bridal shower, traditional engagement party – and free up your time so that you will definitely be there. If you absolutely would not be free for any of those important events, ensure to inform the bride early.
#2. Assist Bride With Wedding-Related Tasks
Before the wedding day, assist the bride during the wedding planning. Be “the bride’s MAID” by being useful to take part in executing the bride’s wedding planning to-do checklist – that could mean you running errands here and there, following up on the vendors, advising the bride on matters she needs your input, and showing up every once in a while (if you live close to her). Some wedding planning tasks the bride usually ask their bridesmaids for help include:
- Help wrap and pack the wedding souvenirs.
- Help write addresses on the wedding invitation cards.
- Help send out final payments to vendors, on behalf of the bride, if she asks you.
#3. Help Organize, Pay for and Attend the Bridal Shower
If there will be a bridal shower, you should join the other bridesmaids to plan the party. The tradition is that all the bridesmaids contribute money towards organizing the bridal shower.
#4. Accompany the Bride to Shop, When Invited
If you live close to the bride, she may invite you to join her in shopping for her wedding outfits, to choose fabrics or style for her traditional wedding attire and more.
#5. Accompany Bride to Vendor Meetings
The bride may occasionally ask you to accompany her to meetings with wedding vendors and reception venue checks.
#6. Give an Honest Opinion When Asked
Wedding planning involves making a lot of choices and decisions – when shopping, when hiring vendors, choosing wedding colours, picking outfits and deciding every single detail. In these types of matters, brides need validation from their bridesmaids, closes friends or relatives, and their opinions too. During shopping or choosing wedding colours, fabrics or venue decor colour combo, the bride usually relies on one or more trusted persons whose opinions she values to help her make the final decision for things like choosing the perfect wedding gown for her shape. Expect the bride to call you every now and then, asking for your opinion on wedding-related matters and conflicts with her fiance and inlaws. Ensure to be honest with her, as the trusted friend you are.