10. Plan for Coordination of the main Wedding Day
Assign a few people to oversee/ coordinate things on your wedding day (when you’ll be on the stage). These people would have to be at the wedding venues very early and leave after everyone. They’ll be making calls early to followup with vendors to be early to do the decoration, to set the cake, to bring the food and drinks, and so on.
- When your wedding is in high gear, these are the people that’ll be in the background quenching any fires or show-stoppers that may come up. Plan this team ahead of time; tell the people you select to do this, and spell out what you expect them to do. Be sure to give your helpers (planning team) useful books or resources that could help them plan your wedding like a pro – ask them to read up our detailed guide on wedding reception planning checklist, and also our step by step guide on wedding day coordination checklist, with help from your close buddies and without the services of a wedding planner.
11. Follow up with your wedding planning team on a regular basis, to mark/ check off a list of work already completed and attend to issues as they arise.
12. Record every wedding expense.
Make a list of what you spent on and how much, making sure you stick to the budget you started with.
13. Gradually transition your role as a lead planner to a few trusty pals.
4 to 8 weeks before the wedding, assign a team of your trusty pals to coordinate/ look after activities on the wedding day. Go over the list of things they need to do before, during and after the religious / church joining ceremony, as well as before, during and after the reception – including the contact details of all your wedding service suppliers (vendors) and what’s left to do by them or how much left to pay them. Also, arrange how to hand the final payment to the key person, for onward payment of the vendors on the wedding day (when you’ll be busy getting married). Yes, write down the list and distribute it to them.
14. 4 to 8 weeks before the wedding stop all involvement with anything wedding planning.
Hand over the remaining things-to-do to your able personal wedding planning team or hire a wedding planner to finish it up and coordinate the wedding day. Most brides start feeling overwhelmed and totally stressed up a few months before their wedding, and so it’s best to hands off any time you feel that way. You can find a wedding planner who is ready to finish stuff up for you – it even costs less than having them start from the beginning of the planning process.
15. Spend the last days to your wedding getting routine beauty fixes, makeup and hair trials as well as having your engagement shoot.
16. Give your photographer your list of must-take wedding day shots.
You can download and print our order of wedding photography checklist from here and then hand over to your photographer.
17. Have an engagement shoot (e-shoot)
Schedule a day with your photographer, and your fiance, to get glam shots of the two of you – these would the photos that would go into several of your wedding things such as your wedding website, printed on your souvenirs, your wedding stationery and more.
18. Pack a wedding day emergency kit
Do this alone or together with your chief bridesmaid/ maid of honour and let her take custody of the kit on the wedding day.
19. Treat and bond with your girls (bridesmaids)
From a few days and up to a day before your wedding, spend more time with your bridesmaids and groomsmen, going through the wedding day itinerary and making sure there’s nothing left out.
20. Do a last-minute check on things
A few days to the wedding day: Confirm things with your venues (reception and Church/ worship house), the rentals suppliers and your wedding service suppliers (vendors). Make sure they are finished or almost – and monitor them closely up to the wedding day. Note that you don’t have to do this yourself, assign the task to a trusty friend or family member.
21. Day of Wedding: Relax and have a forever-happy married life!
Go to your wedding ready to be a guest, knowing that you set up an able team to take care of everything behind the scenes as your party.
There you have it on how to plan a Nigerian wedding in just 21 steps. Now, let’s talk about how you’re going to get those things done, the ‘tools’ you require. People, People, People. When preparing for a wedding, you need support. In Nigeria, people are always looking for ways to be of assistance to a bride-to-be. They are waiting for you to ask for their help. But remember, ‘too many cooks spoil the broth’ – so keep your helpers few.
Involve People and Ask for Help Early: Don’t Be a Bridezilla!
Only bridezillas want to do every single thing themselves when preparing for their wedding. No successful wedding was planned by only one person. Unless you outsource your planning to a professional wedding planner, you need the help of other people to assist you to do some of the tasks in this post. Trying to carry on alone will only stress you out without any result.
The best thing to do is to delegate some of the 21 activities (in the above wedding planning to-do list) to some of your close friends, bridesmaids, and family members. Regularly follow up with everyone to find out what’s been done, what’s left and any issues they might have had. Delegation and regular communication are the guarantees for a perfect wedding. Finally, no matter how well you planned your wedding, there’s no guarantee that something will not go wrong – but you can minimize those risks by having a solid wedding day coordination plan in place.
If you get those two things right (the planning and the coordination), you can be sure that you’ll have a great wedding without stress. Lastly, get to know every possible what-could-go-wrong in a Nigerian wedding, and you are on your way to planning the Nigerian wedding of your dreams – these posts are very informative.
TOP WEDDING MISTAKES TO AVOID (SERIES):
- 11 Ways to Save Money on Wedding Cakes in Nigeria
- Choosing a Wedding Photographer (10 Tips to Avoid Disappointment)
- 8 Top Wedding Reception Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
- Costly Wedding Cake Budgeting Mistakes to Avoid
Final Takeaway: Planning a Nigerian Wedding in 6 Months
So, that’s how to plan for a Nigerian wedding in 6 months. Be sure to start planning early, get helpful people to help you out, and with the help of checklists and wedding templates and worksheets, you can get everything finished up in good time, without stress.
But, if you have a wedding planner, s/he will sit with you to know your wedding budget, help you breakdown that budget, draw up your wedding checklist and timeline, find wedding vendors (if you don’t know any) and follow up with them, and do all the pre-wedding running around for you. On the wedding day, your planner will coordinate the wedding (solemnization/ joining) ceremony and reception. You won’t have to lift a finger, except to walk down the aisle on the D-day.
Ensure to read all the articles that I linked to within this post – they’ll help you a great deal.
I hope this post will help you end your struggle with successfully organizing your Nigerian wedding in 6 months, without stress. Thanks for reading and do consider sharing this post on social media just click the share button down below).
Now, it’s your turn to talk back to me – is there any step you think I missed (above)? Comment below to tell me. Also, how are you planning or preparation for your Nigerian wedding? Which of the above steps have you already done or about to do? Leave me a comment with your reply, and let’s get the discussion continued.