Now that you’re engaged and ready to start planning your wedding, where should you start from? Obviously, the first thing to do is to announce it with an engagement ring selfie and then spend some weeks or months enjoying your new status. Once, you’re ready to start planning the wedding, getting each other on the same page is next. Use our couple’s pre-wedding-planning quiz will get you there. Read on.
I am sure you have an idea of the type of wedding you want. Your fiance also does. You may have even envisioned the D-day’s events in your head. Are you assuming that your fiance also wants similar wedding details as you? Have you asked yourself if your partner also wants the exact things you want, the same way you want them? Some women plan their weddings without even stopping to ask the groom what he wants. Don’t do that.
Why Take the Couple’s Pre-Wedding Planning Quiz?
If you don’t start off your wedding planning on the same page as your fiance, you would be stuck on arguments and delays. To help you harmonize your wedding vision with that of your fiance, we created a couple’s pre-wedding-planning quiz to get you two on the same page.
Many couples fight and argue during their wedding planning months, but it can be minimized. Here’s a scenario:
- WHAT YOU WANT: Let’s say, in your head, you want a one million Naira (N1m) budget wedding at an indoor venue, with 300 guests. You also want 2 outfit changes and a peach colour scheme. Guess what? Because he has a mind of his own, he also has ideas of the wedding – which may not all be the same as yours.
- WHAT HE WANTS: Let’s say, in his mind, he wants a N500k wedding in an outdoor venue, with only 100 guests and he wants both the trad and white wedding on the same day; and he wants a yellow-themed wedding. He thinks you should hire a wedding planner; you think you can plan it yourself.
The truth is that during their first pre-wedding-planning discussion, every couple comes to the table with totally different ideas and visions. Through some digging and talking and compromising here and there, you will both come out with one single idea for every element of your wedding. That’s what our pre-wedding planning quiz for couples will do for you – the quiz is down below.
You’re both going to have only one wedding, only one budget, only one colour scheme. Therefore, you need to have one single vision with which to plan the wedding. How do you merge your wedding wants with his own? How do you both agree?
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- Common Costly Wedding Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
To make this process easy for you, we designed a pre-wedding-planning questionnaire/ quiz. First, print it out before answering the questions. Have your fiance also do the same.
The purpose of the couples’ pre-wedding questionnaire is to help each of you articulate your inner wedding vision and dreams, with every information in your head, so that you can design your an awesome Nigerian wedding. Now, here’s the quiz below:
Printable Pre-Wedding Planning Quiz for Engaged Couples
First off, drop every assumption about you thinking you know everything about how your significant other would like the wedding to look and feel. We advise that you fill this wedding questionnaire together as a couple or you can print out 2 copies for each of you, and later compare your answers. So, get your husband-to-be, grab a comfortable seat and take this easy quiz together.
Q1. Tick two to three words that you think will describe your wedding
- Small – Big – Low Key – Quiet – Intimate – over the top – Classy – Glamorous – Elegant – Themed (with Aso-ebi uniforms) – Formal – Old School – Fun – Traditional – Religious – Secular – Court Registry
Q2. What will be your wedding colour scheme
To help you brainstorm, popular Nigerian wedding colours include:
- Reddish: Crimson, Maroon, dark red, red, wine, rose
- Brownish/ Yellowish: chocolate, brown, tan, gold, yellow
- Green/Gold: grass green, mint green, lime green, gold, yellow, gold, olive, yellow
- Purple/Pinkish: purple –violet, magenta – Hot Pink –pink – violet- purple
- Bluish: turquoise, sky blue, royal blue, navy, blue,
- White: white, ivory, cream, vanilla
- Black shades: silver, grey, black
Q3. Location: Where on earth do you want to get married in?
- In the same town/ city where you live
- In your village
- Overseas (destination wedding)
Q4. Time and season: When do you want to get married?
- During a public holiday (Valentine’s day, Xmas, New year, Sallah Day, Democracy Day, Worker’s day)
- On a memorable date (such as 4/4/2014; 5/5/2015)
- In the rainy season
- In the harmattan season
- In the dry, sunny season
- On a special day (my/ my fiance’s birthday; my parent’s wedding anniversary; our anniversary)
Q4. When you are on leave from work or during your business’ off-peak time/ season?
- Any particular month?
- On your / your parents anniversary
- On an easy to remember date like 4/4/2014
- On a special holiday (Valentine’s Day, New Years, Etc.)
(Note: If you plan on a destination wedding overseas, decide the best time/ season from these: spring, summer, fall, winter )
Q5. What type of wedding ceremony do you want to have?
- White wedding
- Court wedding
- A combo of above three
- A combo Trad + white
- Combo of trad + court
Q6. Where do you want to hold the main wedding ceremony?
- Religious house (church etc)
- Outdoor location (such as a park, open field)
- Overseas (destination wedding)
- A different state from where you live
Q7. Where do you want to have the reception?
- The worship house hall (church hall etc)
- Hotel banquet hall
- Community center (e.g city hall)
Q8. How do you want to have the reception?
- Same place as the wedding ceremony
- Different venue from the wedding ceremony
Q9. How many people will you invite?
- 10 – 25
- 25 – 50
- 50 – 100
- 100 – 200
>>Download our free wedding guest template here – print one for you and one for him.
Q10. How much can you afford to spend on the wedding and reception? Although you may not have made a budget, or know who is contributing financially to support your wedding, select how much you think your wedding should cost: (choose 1)
- N150,000 or less
- N151,000 – N250,000
- N251,000 – N350,000
- N351,000 – N450,000
- N451,000 – N600,000
- N601,000 – N1m
- N1m – 2m
- Over N2m (specify_____)
Q11. Who will pay for the wedding and reception?
- Bride and groom
- Bride and groom’s parents
- Bride’s parents
- Groom’s parents
- Other (specify)_________________
Q12. If you are paying for all or part of the wedding, how will you pay for it?
- Sell a property
- A combination of the above
Q13. What tasks will you undertake for the wedding? (download our wedding checklist for ideas)
traditional wedding planning
- Religious ceremony planning
- Reception planning
- Invitations & program (including guest lists)
- Venue decorations
- Wedding souvenirs, gifts
- Music ( DJ or band), MC
- Food, drinks
- Wedding cake
- Photography &/ or videography
- Honeymoon planning
Q14. Will you go for a honeymoon? Y/N
Q15. How much can you afford to spend on the honeymoon?
- Up to N100,000
- N101,000 – N300,000
Q16. Where will you go for the honeymoon?
- Affordable hotel in the state where you wed
- A luxury resorts in Nigeria (Obudu? LaCampaigne etc?)
- Affordable hotel overseas
- Luxurious hotel overseas
Q17. What would be your most important priority on your wedding day?
Rate the following in order of importance, from 1 to 10; (put a number next to each item below, to show their levels of importance, with 1 as the most important and 10 as least important to you):
- Wedding Attire
- Wedding cake
- Venue appearance (ambiance, decorations, table centerpieces)
- Wedding photography
- Wedding Video
- Wedding souvenirs/ favours
- Attendance and comfort of Guests
Q18. After the D-day has come and gone, what do you want to remember most about your wedding day (choose only 1)
- How small the wedding was
- How big the wedding was
- How big the wedding was
- How so many guests were there
- How the wedding was the talk of the town
- How relaxed you were
- How everything went smoothly and easily
- How happy the guests were
- How happy your parents and close family were
- How everything was fun and exciting
- How romantic it was
- How beautiful it was
- How everything was so correct and tasteful
After You’ve Completed the Pre-Wedding-Planning Quiz, Here’s What to Do
- Be sure to write down your answers, and later compare it to your fiance’s answers. The goal here is to find out where you two are on the same page, and where you are not. You should have seen a couple of differences in what your fiance wants, from the idea you have about the wedding. That’s okay – it’s better to know it now than quarrel about it during wedding-planning.
- Next is for both of you to merge your ideas, agree on where there are differences, so that you will have only one single answer per question as well as a single theme for your upcoming wedding, in terms of style and design – take turns to compromise here and there – that’s how to arrive at one single idea about every part of the wedding.
- What to do with Your Answers? Use your answers to inform your wedding planner about how you want him/ her to plan your wedding. And, if you’re planning your wedding by yourself, use your answers to design your wedding and set the tone for the look and feel of your big day.
Hopefully, our pre-wedding planning questionnaire will help you know the areas where your wedding preferences, wants and ideas differ so that you can make compromises early before the wedding planning starts. Once the two of you figure out what you want and how you envision your wedding, you can begin to plan all the details — including, of course, the budget and all the other fun things.
See More Pre-Wedding-Planning Advice (Video Tutorial)
To validate our point that you really need to have to get yourselves on the same page, listen to what Nigeria’s top wedding planner (Funke Bucknor) says in the video below:
In summary, the very first step in planning a wedding is DISCOVERY – discuss with each other to find out what you and your fiance want, and try to get each other on the same page, regarding your wedding style. That way, you will avoid any unhealthy arguments and also be sure that any wedding planning decisions either of you make, in the absence of one partner, will be in line with the agreed wedding day look and feel.
Now, Are You Ready to Start Planning Your Wedding?
Once you have defined your wedding style and design, and you and your fiance are ready to start planning your wedding, here are some beginner wedding planner articles we wrote to help you at that:
- Your planning checklist for traditional wedding | and this one – the checklist for the white wedding
- How to go about making your wedding budget
- How to make a guest list that matches your budget
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Much Ado About Our Pre-Wedding Planning Questionnaire
Remember, don’t start the wedding planning until you flesh out your personal wedding visions and areas of differences. Compromise to achieve a single wedding vision that you can use to plan the wedding yourself or hand over to a wedding planner
That’s it on how to use the pre-wedding planning questionnaire to flesh and harmonize out your wedding details. I hope you enjoyed reading.
I’d like to know how the above quiz worked out for you. Let me hear it in the comments section below.