10. Assign Some Planning Responsibilities with Your Fiance: Agree on who pays for what, and who does what – between bride and groom (planning roles & responsibilities). It’s also time to ‘beg’ parents and close family for financial support or kind contributions
11. Choose your Attendants/ Bridal Party – i.e. bridesmaids & groomsmen, and optional flower girls and ring-bearer (boy). Make a list of the people you want to be in your bridal party, and inform them. [Ensure to get familiar with the things that bridesmaids are really supposed to do for a bride – read our essential Guide to Bridesmaid Duties and Responsibilities].
7 to 9 Months to Go: White Wedding Checklist
- Book Venue: Select and book a wedding venue for the religious ceremony as well as the reception. I wrote a detailed post that will show you the process of Finding and Choosing a Perfect Wedding Reception Venue. Be sure to check it out.
- Book vendors (cake, caterer, venue decorator, photographer, videographer, invitation cards printer, wedding car hire and drivers, makeup artist, hairstylist, Gele Headtie Artist, MC, DJ and/ or Live Music Band, etc.)
- Engagement Shoot/ Pre-Wedding Photo Sessions: Have an engagement photo-shoot and share on social media, as well as share with any Nigerian wedding blog like NaijaGlamWedding, BellaNaija, and others. >Before the day of the engagement photoshoot arrives, decide on your outfit changes, the photographer and outdoor location for the shoot.
- Wedding Website (Optional) Create your own custom couples’ Wedding Website to announce the wedding, tell your how-we-met story and marriage proposal story, and also provide wedding details including date/ venue/ directions and more.
- Shop for Wedding Rings for bride and groom – see pictures of assorted of trendy wedding rings, to get an idea of the bridal rings to buy;
- Book Rentals: Book wedding day rentals (canopy tents, chairs, tables, etc.); Book ushers & servers.
- Research honeymoon destination and place
- Purchase your wedding gown, veil & lingerie, shapewear
- Have your bridesmaids purchase their dresses
- Book honeymoon accommodation & transport (& process visas, if necessary)
- Start shopping for trad wedding attire & logistics
- Shop for wedding favours/ souvenirs
- Have groom and groomsmen purchase their wedding suits
4 to 6 Months to Go: White Wedding Checklist
1. Customary Marriage Introduction and Traditional Engagement: Arrange to have customary marriage introduction and traditional engagement ceremonies. The usual location for these customary marriage rites is at the bride’s family house. >I created a detailed Nigerian traditional wedding checklist to keep you organized.
2. Get the mothers and fathers shop for their attires;
3. Shop for bridal accessories (shoes, jewelry, headpiece, bouquet, etc);
4. Finalize venue decoration design details and wedding hall seating arrangement;
5. Purchase drinks and food (for in-house caterers);
6. Have bridesmaids shop for their accessories;
7. Write out the wedding day itinerary and hand it over to your bridesmaids, groomsmen, and vendors – so everyone knows the order of things and can help here and there;
8. Start addressing the invitation cards;
9. Confirm bridesmaids & groomsmen outfits & accessories are ready & fit well;
10. Trial Hair and Makeup: Have preview trial runs for wedding makeup and hairstyle – if you’d like to do it yourself, learn from our wedding makeup video tutorial, and also choose a style from our in-vogue wedding hair-styles. >Arrange with your hairstylist and makeup artist to do a trial of your wedding day makeup look and hairstyle. During this practice hair and makeup session, you should be able to point out any errors to your stylists, so they know where to improve for your day-of-wedding looks.
This step is very important because you want to know whether this makeup artist or hairstylist can achieve the look and hairstyle that suits your taste and personality. >It is not a good idea to do hair/ makeup the first time on your wedding day, to avoid disappointment to you or your groom (we’re tired of hearing grooms tell us how they hated their bride’s look on the wedding day);
11. Start Your Pampering Session: Start your wedding skin/ beauty and grooming (including skin treatments and weight loss plans). Relax, Go to bed early every day and get a beauty treatment (facials and massage) every now and then – massage/ facials/ workouts. HINT: Do not have facials close to your wedding date, as some treatments can have temporary redness and the occasional breakout.
12. Appoint your wedding day chairman (Optional), wedding day assistants, food servers & ushers
1 to 3 Months to Go: White Wedding Checklist
1. Review with Photographer: Some brides have certain wedding day photography poses they found online or in magazines that they absolutely want to recreate on their big day. If that’s you, this is the time to give your photographer your must-have photos posing list to your photographer, so that they know the important not-to-miss pictures to catch
2. Distribute invites: Send out the wedding invitation cards to people on your guest list. It’s important to send invitations early to ensure everyone will not have booked other engagements on your wedding date.
3. Put together your bridal emergency kit & hand over to a bridesmaid.
4. Finalize Vendor Agreements: Again, finalize details & delivery times with all vendors. By this time, you should have every signed vendor agreement in your hand.
5. Review Playlist with DJ: Finalize music playlist (& do-not-playlist) with DJ/music band. Why you do this is because you know that some types of songs won’t be appropriate for particular sets of your guests, and no one likes surprise WRONG or EMBARRASSING SONG being played on your wedding day. So, this is the time to sit with your DJ and have a sample listening to what he will play for you. As you go over the songs, ensure to give him your DO NOT PLAY list (of songs), so he knows the songs you don’t want to be played. For example, a Christian couple would want to play some Nigerian music/ songs as well as Christian pop songs, but they may have songs by a musician like DavidO on their DO NOT PLAYLIST.
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