Nigerian White Wedding Planning Checklist: Monthly and Weekly To-Do List

Research ideas for how different elements of your wedding will look and feel.  A good idea is to research magazines and websites for pictures of other people’s weddings, and save pictures of ideas you like and feel you’ll want to replicate at your own wedding.  It will make it easy for you and your wedding planner or assistants to see pictures of what to work towards. Instead of using so many long talks to explain what you want, why not say it with pictures?

  • How will your reception venue look like (Decor Colour & Ambiance): Do you have any theme in mind (optional)? Decide on venue decoration colour scheme. Decide on how the venue will be decorated?
  • Venue Seating Arrangement: What kind of chairs and tables will you use? How will the chairs and tables be decorated? What venue seating arrangement / style would it be? Think about how all the chairs and tables will be arranged in your wedding hall – browse the internet for pictures of decoration and seating arrangements to from pictures of other people’s wedding.
  • Define the wedding menu. What types of food do you want served to your guests? Only Nigerian food? Both Nigerian and Continental food?  Will there be small chops? What options will be served as the main dish?
  • Define your Outfit Style: Here, you also want to define what you and your wedding party members will wear.  Define couple’s trad attire and white wedding fashion details – the styles, the colours and more.  Again, look at pictures from other Nigerian weddings and make a note of the style you want to recreate for yourself, your bridesmaids and groomsmen, as well as aso-ebi fabric choice and colour combos.
  • You can also find loads of wedding styling ideas from our Instgram page and our Pinterest wedding lookbook boards.

4. Research Vendors: Start researching and looking for suitable wedding venues and vendors.  Ask people you know for names and contact details of good wedding vendors they know. Check instagram for list of wedding vendors tagged and listed on photos of recent Nigerian weddings shared  (these days, most newlyweds and their photographers or other vendors make a habit of listing and tagging the vendors used for that wedding).  *Also, you can follow our guide on where and how to find good Nigerian wedding vendors that will not disappoint you.

Once you find the ones you vibe with, make a list of your final vendors so that you can reserve/ book them at the appropriate them.

5. Set a Wedding Budget: How much do you have? Set an overall maximum amount of money you can afford to spend (budget).  Obviously you don’t want to spend your entire bank account on a one-day-activity (wedding) and start your marriage broke – that is why you must define a spending-ceiling you want to plan the wedding with.

6. Confirm Interests for Financial Support (Optional): Not everyone wants/ needs to do this.  At this time, you want to ask wealthy closest people around you if and how they are willing to support you in funding part of your wedding.  Be sure to have saved up on your own and ready to go ahead with the money you already have, if no one steps up to aid you financially.

  • If your parents’ and/ or Uncles/ Aunts are financially strong, this is the time to nicely ask if they are looking to support you in any way? If they are, find out exactly what they are willing to give and when – so that you can budget for the other stuff.
  • Some Nigerian parents support their children during weddings by gifting them with some money to add to what they have OR by choosing to fund specific parts of their wedding. That is where the parents are financially stable, and some couples fund their weddings themselves without parents’ financial support.
  • Set a date for when to move on if you don’t receive any or all of promised funds – because you can’t wait forever.
  • Some couples do this part wrongly, by not saving any money and going all out to beg for entire money to plan their wedding.  Don’t do that.

7. Start Marriage Counselling Class: Now is the time to inquire for details of duration and also apply to start a marriage counselling class at your place of worship.

8. Set a Guest Count: Put a number to how many guests you want to host. Set the maximum number of guests you want to invite and share the number equally between the couple, bride’s and groom’s families – see details of how to do that  in this post that teaches how to know how many guests to invite to your white wedding

9. Choose Your Planning Squad/ Assistants: No successful wedding is planned alone – you need people to assist you. Hire one or ask a few family members and friends.

Hire a wedding planner if you’re too busy to do the running around or if the wedding planning is causing you stress.  But if you can’t afford to hire a pro wedding planner, form your own in-house planning squad and delegate part of your wedding checklist to them. Write a list of to-dos that you want others to help you with, and communicate it to them.  These days, you can track progress amongst yourself via video chats.

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Comments

  1. Thank you so much! Really helpful.. I’m no longer confused. Hayy 🙆

  2. Thanks so much for this Stella. I’m glad I read this. Can’t afford a wedding planner, but with this I can now plan with my fiance, a few trusted friends and family members without being too stressed out on my day. Thanks for making this readily available

  3. You are simply amazing Stella. OK I am engaged to my fiance who isn’t NIGERIAN, he is white, so he is coming sometimes in May to do the introduction and have us do a court wedding, first question
    (1) since he doesn’t know about our tradition and all that’s expected to be done and said on the introduction rites, (and he s coming down alone) what can be done,?so he doesn’t do or say something wrong on that day.
    (2)after the introduction, can we do the court wedding without having paid the bride price?
    (3)Can the bride price be paid on the day of introduction?
    Forgot to mention am igbo, both parents are in Lagos.And if he goes back, he s due back again in August, I don’t want to do anything big, I just want to have a feel of the traditional setting decorate a venue take pictures with my different attires and have a little reception for a guest of 100people, any guide on how to pull this off and still have something classy. Help a sister Biko.

    • Hi Ugonna,

      I’m glad to have you around – thanks for reading, and also for leaving a comment. Now onto your questions – see my reply below:
      – (1) You said your husband-to-be does not know about our customs, and asked what can be done: I think you should familiarize him in advance with Igbo and Nigerian marriage customs and customary wedding rites. We wrote an a series of articles on exactly that, and have got great feedbacks from grooms at home and abroad who used that post to know everything there is to know before their Igbo traditional wedding, or meeting their inlaws for the first time.
      ==> get him to read this article and the 3 posts that make up rest of the series: Everything a non-Igbo Groom Needs to Know Before His Marriage Introduction or Traditional Wedding Day
      Everything a non-Igbo Groom Needs to Know Before His Marriage Introduction or Traditional Wedding Day
      =>Preparing to Meet Your Igbo Inlaws: Process Explained for Non-Igbo Grooms
      => What Happens During the Igba Nkwu – Grooms’ Guide
      What Happens During the Igba Nkwu – Grooms’ GuidePreparing to Meet Your Igbo Inlaws: Process Explained for Non-Igbo Grooms
      – (2) When to Do the Court Wedding: Yes, people do court wedding after the introduction (before payment of the bride price). It’s done, although that is the usual; but where the groom and maybe bride are coming from afar and do not have much time to spend, it is done to quicken things – but be sure to let your family know that in advance, and that he would do pay bride price soon after.
      – (3) Yes, the bride price can be paid on same day of Introduction. Again, this is not usual but done when the couple or one of them is coming from afar and do not have a lot of time to spend or space things.
      **You mentioned that your parents live in Lagos and that’s where you plan to have your trad wedding. My dear, that is also done these days. The number of guests (100) you’re planning for the reception (sort of, Igba Nkwu) is more than enough; there’s no rule about the number – most people even do it a parlour size. I suggest that you just make it a PARTY all the way, no casual thing – because 100 guests is big enough to make it classy. Hire a good photographer team (because it’s what speaks after the day is gone), hire an MC (or get a smooth-talking family member or friend to handle this), hire a DJ.
      My sister had hers last year and she said she wanted it small and her Yoruba inlaws were more than 30 that travelled all the way – add that to our family and friends and you have about a hundred. So, we thought “this is already a party crowd, why not make it count”. So, we quickly changed plans that day – and hired a music band, canopies, and MC and a photographer – which were not in her initial plan or interest. And she loved it!
      So, my dear, you’re already on the right track.

  4. This is a very comprehensive wedding list. Thanks for making it readily available!

  5. Atuba Clive says

    Stella, I feel like I should get married now. you did a fine job opening my mind.

    • Hahaha, Atuba. I’m glad I did – getting married is a good thing na. We here love featuring weddings, and your own is now on the line.
      Thanks for reading. Hope to see you around.

  6. Hi, great article,what would be ur advice for some1 that has just 3 months to plan for a court wedding and reception,low budget about 500k, so can’t afford a planner?

  7. Hello Stella,thank you for this wonderful post. Please is it possible have my book launch on the same day of my wedding. Thank you

    • Thank you too, Okive – we love hearing feedback from our readers.
      Absolutely! Yes, it’s possible to launch your book on your wedding day but there are pros and cons. Your wedding day could be a great opportunity because you’re going to have a huge crowd of people. But then that depends on whether your wedding crowd is the same type of people that would be interested in the topics in your book, and whether they are the kind of audience that would readily buy.
      *On another note, you don’t want people to think that you’re using your wedding to ‘twist them’ into parting with money to you. You know how some Naija people can feel.
      *On another thought, I’d say that you should launch before your wedding day, so that your launch day is targeted at selling some of your books and focusing publicity on your book alone. AND announce/ show the book to your wedding guests, as part of the programme – so that guests get an idea that you’re not there to sell but just to announce to them and let them know where the book is available in case they need to buy.

  8. This was very helpful,thanks a lot. but what if you don’t have that much time to plan? i want to know how possible it is to plan within a short time of 6months. thanks again.

    • Hi Helen, thanks for reading our white wedding checklist. Now to answering your two questions:
      Q. If you don’t have time to plan your wedding, here are 2 things you can do:
      1) Hire someone else / an event planner who has the time to plan it for you, and do all the waka/ legwork.
      2) OR Scale down your wedding to a more manageable size. Small weddings can be planned better in s short time – whether it’s a low-key weddings or one with few guests and low budget.

      Q. Is it possible to plan a wedding in 6 months?
      ANSWER: Absolutely. Yes, it is possible. You can use our above wedding planning checklist timeline, BUT then where you have 12 months, use 6 months; and where you have 4 weeks, use 2 weeks. The idea is to half all the suggested time durations for all activities.
      *If you can start off by booking your venue, and then booking your most important vendors, you would have less to worry about. Also ensure to send out your invitations early.

    • Hi am yin am not igbo girl but my bf igbo i need to know about the tradetion about wedding.what is the firts step to do let say exampla am a igbo girl. What is the firts wedding 2nd is engage . after tradational wedding the brides need to take the groom him house ? And after wedding what is the nxt step

  9. stella you re such a blessing. God bless you real good.

  10. You’re simply the best! Thank You!!!

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