12. To Have an Aso-ebi or Not: What will your guests wear? Decide if you want your traditional wedding guests to show up in Asoebi (i.e. uniformed fabric and colour code for your guests). If so, inform them in advance – to enable them budget for it and also have the aso-ebi clothing sewn in good time before your trad wedding. Usual aso-ebi groupings for Nigerian Traditional Weddings include:
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the bride’s side of the family
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combo for the groom’s side of the family
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combo for the bride’s friends
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the groom’s friends
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the bride’s/ groom’s parent’s friends (you may leave this to the parents to decide and choose if and what they want).
NOTE that this is optional, although popular these days of social media and Instagram trending weddings.
- SEE: Colour Combinations LIST: List of Colours that Go With Specific Colours
- Peach Colour Combo LIST: 57 Colour that Match with Peach
13. Choose What to Wear (Couple’s Attire): Decide on couple’s traditional wedding attire color combination and styles for bride/ groom/ aso-ebi, and then book a good Nigerian tailor to sew the fabrics
- Decide on fabric type: It’s best to go with the occasion-wear fabric and sewing style identified with your part of Nigeria. The beauty of a traditional wedding is the show of cultural heritage – embrace yours.
- There are so many suitable for traditional wedding celebrants, but the most popular include aso-oke, lace, George wrapper for bride and grooms from Eastern Nigeria and Niger-Delta.
- One of the best ways to decide what colour and outfit styles to wear as couples is to browse Instagram, Pinterest and Wedding Blogs like here. Save pictures of trad wedding attire you like, and at a later time, narrow down to a few and then to one.
14. Purchase couple’s traditional wedding attire (for the bride, groom) – including the trad’ wedding fabrics and good tailors to sew them, the Gele head-tie, bride’s bead jewelry and so on [SEE: Latest Gele Styles and Colour combos (Photos)];
15. What will the Parents Wear (Bride’s/ Groom’s Parents)? Ask them or plan their outfits on their behalf. If you know they cannot afford to dress to your wedding the way that will make you happy, go all the way to also buy the occasion outfits your mother and father will wear. Most people do this.
16. Book rentals in advance (such as canopy tents, tables, and chairs) and venue decorators for the trad wedding reception. Also book a good photographer and video coverage person for the day. Don’t forget that a good MC and DeeJay or live band adds life to any wedding. You may need to do part-payment in advance to have the rentals and wedding vendors lock down the dates for you and prevent disappointment.
17. Arrange for catering (food and drinks) for the traditional wedding day. Decide whether you want to hire caterers or do the cooking in-house. Usually, the bride’s mom and her friends or her women’s meeting colleagues are happy to do this for free. If your trad wedding location is in the village, your Aunties will be happy to do the cooking for you. When having the cooking done in-house, ensure to provide them with enough money to buy the ingredients or you can buy the list ingredients yourself and hand to them.
18. Do You Have Time to Plan it Yourself? Decide if you want to do the leg-work and stress involved with your trad wedding planning yourself or will you hire a wedding planner to organize the whole things for you. If so, hire a good planner. [Find Out: How to know if you need a wedding planner or if you have everything it takes to successfully plan your traditional wedding all by yourself]
For Grooms: Things to Do After Engagement to a Nigerian Bride & Answers to Common Questions Men Have
Now, this side-note is for a man (especially, a non-Nigerian) who is preparing to marry a Nigerian woman. It’s aimed to help you understand why you’ll be having at least 2 different types of wedding ceremonies (aka wedding parties), when taking a Nigerian bride.
Nigerian weddings are fun, colourful and uniquely different from the rest of the World, and typically starts from the customary formal introduction ceremony (of groom’s family to bride’s), traditional wedding (also known as the ‘traditional engagement ceremony’).
FUN FACT: In Nigerian culture, a Nigerian woman is not considered married until her groom completes the customary traditional marriage rites. So, it’s very important and of necessity.