12. To Have an Aso-ebi or Not? What will your guests wear? Decide if you want your traditional wedding guests to show up in Asoebi (i.e. uniformed fabric and colour code for your guests). If so, inform them in advance – to enable them budget for it and also have the aso-ebi clothing sewn in good time before your trad wedding.
You’ll want to see the latest wedding aso-ebi styles for ideas. Usually, brides choose different or same aso-ebi fabric for different groups of people. Popular aso-ebi groupings for Nigerian traditional weddings include:
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the bride’s side of the family
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combo for the groom’s side of the family
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combo for the bride’s friends
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the groom’s friends
- Aso-ebi fabric and colour combination for the bride’s/ groom’s parent’s friends (you may leave this to the parents to decide and choose if and what they want).
NOTE that this is optional, although popular these days of social media and Instagram trending weddings.
- SEE: Colour Combinations LIST: List of Colours that Go With Specific Colours
- Peach Colour Combo LIST: 57 Colour that Match with Peach
- 58 Wine Wedding and Aso-ebi Colour Combination Ideas
13. Choose What to Wear (Couple’s Attire): Decide on couple’s traditional wedding attire colour combination and styles for bride/ groom/ aso-ebi, and then book a good Nigerian tailor to sew the fabrics
- Decide on fabric type: It’s best to go with the occasion-wear fabric and sewing style identified with your part of Nigeria. The beauty of a traditional wedding is the show of cultural heritage – embrace yours.
- There are so many suitable for traditional wedding celebrants, but the most popular include aso-oke, lace, George wrapper for bride and grooms from Eastern Nigeria and Niger-Delta.
- One of the best ways to decide what colour and outfit styles to wear as couples is to browse Instagram, Pinterest and Wedding Blogs like here. Save pictures of trad wedding attire you like, and at a later time, narrow down to a few and then to one.
14. Purchase couple’s traditional wedding attire (for the bride, groom) – including the trad’ wedding fabrics and good tailors to sew them, the Gele head-tie, bride’s bead jewellery and so on. See ideas below:
- Traditional Wedding Colour Combination Ideas
- 7 Modern Idoma Bride and Groom Traditional Wedding Attire Styles
- Latest Aso-Oke Designs and Colours for Yoruba Couples
- 5 Stunning Igbo Grooms Shirt and Wrapper Traditional Attire
- Latest George Wrapper Designs with Matching Blouses for Igbo Brides
- Latest Igbo Traditional Marriage Attire Styles for Brides
ALSO, DECIDE ON BRIDE’S HAIRSTYLE
- 20 Pretty Igbo Traditional Wedding Hairstyles and Coral Bead Ideas
- The Latest White Wedding Hairstyles in Nigeria
- 5 Beautiful Natural Hair Bridal Hairstyles
15. What will the Parents Wear (Bride’s/ Groom’s Parents)? Ask them or plan their outfits on their behalf. If you know they cannot afford to dress to your wedding the way that will make you happy, go all the way to also buy the occasion outfits your mother and father will wear. Most people do this.
16. Book for rental items in advance (such as canopy tents, tables, and chairs) and venue decorators for the trad wedding reception. Also, book a good photographer and video coverage person for the day.
Don’t forget that a good MC and DeeJay or live band adds life to any wedding. You may need to do part-payment in advance to have the rentals and wedding vendors lock down the dates for you and prevent disappointment.
17. Arrange for catering (food and drinks) for the traditional wedding day. Decide whether you want to hire caterers or do the cooking in-house. Usually, the bride’s mom and her friends or her women’s meeting colleagues are happy to do this for free.
If your trad wedding location is in the village, your Aunties will be happy to do the cooking for you. When having the cooking done in-house, ensure to provide them with enough money to buy the ingredients or you can buy the list ingredients yourself and hand to them.
- SEE: Party Jollof Rice Recipe for 100 People or More
- How to Make Doughnuts for 100 or More People (Recipe)
18. Give the DJ Your Song List: I have been to a few weddings where each time the DJ plays a song, the bride/ groom gestures to someone and have them tell the DJ to change that song to another.
That makes the guests feel like you just hired that DJ a few minutes before the wedding and didn’t think you needed to serve your guests with a non-interrupted flow of music. Don’t do that! The best way is to plan your wedding songs playlist together with your DJ.
When interviewing a potential DJ, ask them to play you a sample of the songs they usually play at clients’ Nigerian traditional weddings. Also, let them know a list of songs you do not want to be played and give them a list of your must-play-songs.
If you and your significant other have your best songs, give the names to the DJ for him to play it for you to dance to. Also, ask your parents the songs they want to dance to, with you – and tell the DJ to play that during the father-daughter dance or mother-son dance.
19. Do You Have Time to Plan it Yourself? Decide if you want to do the leg-work and stress involved with your trad wedding planning yourself or will you hire a wedding planner to organize the whole thing for you. If so, hire a good planner.
Find out How to know if you need a wedding planner or if you have everything it takes to successfully plan your traditional wedding all by yourself. If you must plan it yourself, you need to know what it requires to guarantee that your wedding day will go perfectly as planned.
- RELATED: Planning Checklist: Nigerian White Wedding
- How to Plan a Traditional and White Wedding Same Day
Your Traditional Wedding Countdown Starts Now…
Many brides feel under-pressure and stressed at some point during their wedding planning journey. For some, the feeling goes away after a while or is on-and-off, but for some, they feel nearly sick.
Some of the ways to de-stress yourself include taking breaks in-between planning and asking others to help. We wrote a detailed guide on a lot more ways to handle anxiety and stress during wedding planning.
OTHER PLANNING CHECKLISTS WITH TIMELINE
- 3-Months Nigerian Wedding Planning Checklist
- 6-Months Wedding Planning Checklist
- 12-Months White Wedding Planning Checklist
- Wedding Reception Planning Checklist
I hope the above Nigerian traditional wedding checklist of to-dos helps you plan a beautiful ceremony. If you start planning early, from a few weeks or months after the marriage proposal, you’ll feel less stress close to the date of your trad wedding event.
Did I miss anything that needs to be done before a traditional wedding in Naija? If so, add it in the comments box below.